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Right now everyone is concerned with re-entry. Re-entry anxiety is the fear that as the pandemic slows down and the quarantine lifts we will have to go back out there and, well, talk to people. Loss of social skills, bad home haircuts, extra pandemic pounds; as the reality hits, lots of people are freaking out.

It’s like a form of delayed adolescence where we are forced out of the nest into a post-apocalyptic world where we are assured hey, yes, you will be able to breathe, sure, it will be safe, no really, you will be fine. …


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The ability to pivot is your greatest superpower.

It’s easy to get caught up in the fear. We thought the pandemic would last three months. Then we hunkered down for six months. When the year marker hit, and the PPP loans ran out, and small businesses shuttered to a close, it became frighteningly real. The streets were empty. Tumbleweeds blew down city streets. Snowstorms blanketed us with despair. Electrical outages seemed a sign of a future apocalypse.

Life over the last year has changed at a relentless pace. Our whole perspective on reality, in fact, has morphed into a dystopian…


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Ever wonder why your sex life is not doing well? It could be because of the pandemic. It could be the fact that you’re not getting out much. There could be a lot of reasons for a failing intimate life.

In my expert opinion as a certified sex therapist, I can tell you a bunch of reasons that your sexual intimacy is falling apart. Here are the top ten:

In my expert opinion as a certified sex therapist, I can tell you a bunch of reasons that your sexual intimacy is falling apart.

One: You’re watching too much porn. I…


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What does it mean to live in chaos? Are some people just more prone to self-sabotage?

If you haven’t caught it yet, I am the first guest on the kick-off episode of Andy Dick’s new podcast, aDiCKted. In each episode, he tries to deal with an aspect of his crazy life and promises he is there to take a good hard look at his addictions. If you don’t know Andy Dick, he is an actor and comedian well known for his celebrity roast appearances on MTV.

In episode one, we tackle Andy’s tumultuous sex life, I try to get Andy…


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Since the pandemic, we have been in a crisis of mental health. There have been rising rates of suicide, increased depression, high levels of anxiety[i], and more divorce than in the past ten years[ii].

Now more than ever, the world needs good therapists. Those who are drawn to being a healer, or have always wanted to be a therapist, are sometimes wounded themselves. Take good care of yourselves. Their are lots of people out there who need help.

Others are just hearing the call to study, to learn, to find their place in the therapy world. I am here to…


Desire and Attachment; a Post Lockdown look at how your relationship will survive

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By Dr. Tammy Nelson

Can you get to know someone so well, so intimately, that you can’t imagine being without them? And at the same time, you’ve learned lately during this experiment we’ve called COVID-19 lockdown, that when you’re with them all the time, you lose interest.

Recent research published in the Frontiers of Psychology Journal tells us that the COVID-19 pandemic did some damage, not only to our mental health but to our sex lives as well. The lockdown’s effect on our relationships and our sexuality…


One thing that we can no longer tolerate in a relationship is an opposing political viewpoint. We can live with someone who has a different religion, or a different cultural background. We can deal with someone who roots for the opposite sports team, or someone who likes a different type of ice cream. But for a Democrat to live with a Republican these days?

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Being a Republican doesn’t mean what it used to. It no longer means you stand for conservative fiscal values; instead, it exemplifies regressive and oppressive views on women’s rights, gay marriage, and insidious racism that borders…


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At first, you think you’re doing fine. You make dinner together every night. In the morning you each go to a separate part of the house and log in to Zoom to start your day. At lunch, you bump into each other in the kitchen and ask “How’s it going?”

It’s all polite and civilized.

But now it’s been weeks. Months even. You’re still in lockdown. The shelter in place order isn't going anywhere. You avoid the news, but something comes across your phone, you might be here till 2022. You start to panic.

Suddenly, you can't stand the way…


What is the meaning of all this?

Last week a robin flew into my kitchen window. It hovered and scratched and beat its wings against the glass.

I stood and watched as it stared at me through the window, its head turned to the side, its red belly pumping with its effort to get through, into my world. Then it flew away.

I was seven days into quarantine, making the best of the COVID-19 lockdown. Being at home in Connecticut means it’s still cold in March, the trees are bare, the grass is brown. …


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“Stay home.”

That’s what the goddess said.

I sat in a lawn chair wrapped in a towel, shivering in the night air. Steam rose from my skin, freshly boiled from the hot tub.

I closed my eyes and could still see the stars above, bursts of light in the night sky, brighter than I’d ever seen them. The cities around me were dark, no ambient light to block the view.

I took a breath. The divine feminine, the goddess energy of the universe, she is kicking our ass, I thought.

Then I heard her. She whispered to me, in not…

Tammy Nelson

Tammy Nelson PhD is a Certified Sex and Couples Therapist, a TEDx speaker and host of The Trouble with Sex podcast. She is the author of The New Monogamy.

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